#Biff response how to#

Keep it down to 1 paragraph 2 to 5 sentences in most cases, regardless of the length of the senders email/text. One of the most effective methods for responding to HCP’s is by using Eddy’s “B.I.F.F.” response BRIEF, INFORMATIVE, FRIENDLY and FIRM. Going around and around in communication with an HCP can actually make you look like an HCP to those outside of the situation, including the Family Court judge. Eddy reminds us that these techniques are not effective, and they actually make you look bad. An HCP will not suddenly see their personality defect because you point it out to them – especially because you point it out.

Believe me when I tell you, this does not work. Our natural instinct is to respond by pointing out the inaccuracies and the lies, and to try to get the writer to see the error of his/her ways. Maintaining your sanity and protecting your children’s emotional welfare is why it is so important to use a special method of communication with HCPs. Children sense their parents’ conflict and stress, which causes them angst and depression. If you’re not careful, these personalities will drag you down into the mud with them, causing you anxiety and anger.

#Biff response how to#

Exes know how to push your buttons and email and texts are some of their favorite platforms. They ignore other people’s questions and, instead, they raise new issues of their own – often in an attacking manner. HCP’s often cannot stay focused and answer a simple question with a simple answer.

Social worker and lawyer, Bill Eddy, refers to these people as High Conflict Personalities (HCP’s). We all know and become exasperated by these people. All they seem to do is blame, attack, defend and attack again. She exaggerates the littlest things and blows everything out of proportion. He refuses to take responsibility for his actions.